I love this scene from Shrek. It shows Shrek trying to explain to Donkey that Ogres aren't what he thought they were. They have inner lives, and reasons of their own. He says that Ogres are like onions.
“The heart is hopelessly dark and deceitful,
a puzzle that no one can figure out.
But I, God, search the heart
and examine the mind.
I get to the heart of the human.
I get to the root of things.
I treat them as they really are,
not as they pretend to be."
We do pretend. Even to ourselves. We don't always know why we do things. And until we can be completely truthful with ourselves, it will be hard to be truthful with others. So many times we judge others based on our own lives and experiences, rather than theirs. We cannot really know where they are coming from!
Don't judge! Don't assume! Don't let yourself be hurt by the actions of others, especially when you don't really know why they are doing them! Life is too short, and eternity is too long.
Families are broken. Friendships are broken. Churches are broken. Marriages are broken. Countries are broken. All because of misunderstanding and mistrust. Let it stop! Being right is not worth being alone. We can't really know what is right, anyway. God knows. Lean on Him. Talk to Him. Cry to Him.
King James Version (KJV)
1 I will love thee, O Lord, my strength.
2 The Lord is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.
3 I will call upon the Lord, who is worthy to be praised: so shall I be saved from mine enemies.
4 The sorrows of death compassed me, and the floods of ungodly men made me afraid.
5 The sorrows of hell compassed me about: the snares of death prevented me.
6 In my distress I called upon the Lord, and cried unto my God: he heard my voice out of his temple, and my cry came before him, even into his ears.